what to wear to a job interview?

A couple of weeks ago, a company contacted me on Xing. That’s the german version of Linked-In. I had been contacted a few times before. These other times, the jobs I had been contacted for, sounded really interesting to me. I would have definitely applied immediately, if only….. the job wouldn’t be at the other side of Germany! Three times I had a job offer for a great job, they were just 8 or 9 hours away from where I now live.

Of course that is not a problem, normally. Because I have moved a lot of times and I don’t mind… But I am really happy that me and my boyfriend have managed to live together now. We had a long distance relationship for years, a lot of years. So, I am really done with that and quite happy that at least that part of my life is finally steady. We had been travelling back and forth for years, so I am definitely through with that!

Although I couldn’t really apply to those jobs, it is of course, quite flattering that they “spotted” me. This  time, the company that had contacted me, was actually located in Hamburg, so that was great news. The funny thing was, that it was a position that I would not have thought about applying to myself. This is because of the responsibilities they wanted to give me and the financial aspect to it. I see myself as competent for this position, however, I think, there would be a lot that I would have to learn before I would feel confident enough to apply on a job as an account manager myself.

Since this job was in Hamburg and they thought I might be competent enough, I decided that I am competent enough. I wrote them back that I was interested and then I got a call back. We made out a date for the interview and that was it.

So now I had to prepare for a job interview! Since they had reached out to me, there was less of a pressure for me… I’m really nervous before I have a job interview… It’s hard to be prepared for every question they could ask  and I think it’s almost impossible to have all the information that’s required for the job… So I try to focus in my preparation to the information that I think will be most important. Still, at every job interview, I have the feeling, there is still information missing. To make this feeling less important and to increase my chances in the job interview, I also focus on other points…

Feeling confident, can make a really big difference in an interview. So to avoid last minute stress, I will always start preparing a job interview in time, not like my college exams 😉 I will try to get enough sleep the days before, eat some healthy food, get relaxing moments and eat a good breakfast. So, basically I’m giving my body and mind some extra attention to feel good about myself. This works for me. An important ritual before job interviews is also to think about what to wear!

BlouseI shouldn’t just feel confident, my clothes should tell my future boss the same. What I wear at a job interview is different every time. It depends on the contact I had before with the company and the information that I already have about the company. This time the contact I had before was pretty informal. I wasn’t sure what to wear yet and looked at several outfits in my closet. I don’t always go to my closet physically, I can also go through my closet in my mind.

blazerSo often I will start thinking about what to wear, the same day that I hear about the interview. All kinds of blouses, blazers, pants, skirts and dresses wonder through my mind. The days before I have the interview I will already form some outfits. If I have enough time, I will probably try some of them or all of them on. What I will finally wear I decide on the night before or on the day of the interview. So this is what my job interview outfit looked like this time:

I put my hair up. Wore an off-white blouse with a bow; a dark blue blazer with a sailor touch to it; dark blue jeans and dark blue heels. What do you think about it? I think I looked great! The outfit totally helped building up my confidence in the hours before the interview…

The conversation went well. Still I didn’t have a a good feeling about it afterwards. It was the lady/girl I had the interview with. I don’t think we connected. My feeling was right. I called after I hadn’t heard of them after a week. The person that was in charge of the applications wasn’t available. So the same night I got an e-mail saying: thanks for the interview but you don’t match our expectations… Of course that’s not what they wrote. But it is what they meant.

Actually I’m not sad, I already knew when I left the building. I’m happy that I can now focus on the online marketing course that starts the second week of april! I am really looking forward to that! Still: giving yourself enough attention before an interview can really help to convince a company, because you really do feel more confident because of that. The right outfit is a big part of that! 🙂

~Live your life like a story worth living…

Sorry for not writing…

I have’n been writing for quite some time now. I am very sorry for that. I actually wanted to write about all the things in my life and not just about the happy things. Since I didn’t enough good news to tell you, I kept postponing to write. Well, maybe I should have, because maybe this could have motivated me during this this time.

So this is where I stand right now… I had handed in my bachelor thesis for the second time at the beginning of September 2012. I had to wait a couple of weeks for the results, but luckily I passed! As I had expected, it wasn’t the grade that I had liked for all the work I had put into it. At the end I was just relieved that I had finally made it to the end of my bachelor thesis!
The oral exam that I had to take about my bachelor thesis was nerve wrecking, but I also passed this exam. After this stress I told myself just to get a little bit of rest before writing my final essays and finishing the last two subjects of my bachelor…

Well, you might have guessed, I still haven’t finished. There are a lot of reasons why, but none of them is really good enough. The point is that I’ve developed some kind of stage fear for papers, essays and everything that has to do with writing and research. I have been telling myself that I’m just no good and I’m afraid of failing. So bad that I have just not been writing at all! How stupid is that?!  This is costing my loads of money on the tuition fee and I’m building up a debt because I’m not able to work and finish my bachelor at the same time. I don’t say it’s not possible, I’m just saying that I just can’t do it.

In the mean time I feel kind of paralysed, although deep inside I know I can do it. I hope I can help myself find back my power, because I really do need that power right now!

Let’s see if I can do it… I’ll keep you posted on my developments…. I just remember my own quote… Let’s try to live up to it!

~Live your life like a story worth living…

Hard work and the joy of living

So last weekend I working, or actually volunteering, at the Hanseatic days 2012. It’s tradition lies in the Hanseatic League, that supported each other by exchanging goods. This year the Hanseatic days were held in Luneburg. Such a wonderful city, with all kinds of old buildings, streets and alleys. I visited the city 1,5 months ago for the first time, together with my boyfriend. At that time, we already fell in love with the city. This time we saw more old buildings, more alleys and a city that was living as it should be.

The different feeling in the city was also caused by the Hanseatic days. As there were many people visiting the city because of it. It was beautiful weather. We had a lot of sun during this days, a little bit of rain, which cooled the city down and lot’s of happy people.

I was working at the Hanseatic market, where all the different hanseatic cities presented themselves. At the same time there was a music festival held, throughout the whole centre of the city. The market was held around the town hall and the music that was playing at the town hall square, made our days a little brighter.

I used to do an internship for a Dutch Hanseatic city and now they asked me and a friend of mine, who also was an intern there, if we wanted to come along and help. We worked together with two former colleagues and had a good time together. My boyfriend was helping us as well, for at least half of the time, so that was really great.

After the first day, my feet were very sore, and I asked myself how I would be able to still work for two more days. The bathtub and a good night of sleep were my saving! We had so much fun during those days. It was great to work with nice people, enjoy the city during te breaks, in the morning and in the evening. It was great having dinner together. We had a lot of fun in the hotel swimming pool, that was open even at night. It also was heaven for our feet that had been standing for another day. What a great view the swimming pool had! The hotel I can recommend if you have the budget to pay it from: Hotel Bergström.  You can also enjoy the very small pool, but with a wonderful view.

After these few days, I was worn out. But the hard work and the fun moments with nice colleagues and friend were definetly worth it. If I’m not working/volunteering at the Hanseatic Days next year, I will definetely visit! There was so much more to see, listen and experience, next year I’ll try to get even more out of these days. It’s been worth all of the time and energy that I’ve put in it. Let’s do it again next year!

An insighht in Luneburgg

~Live your life like a story worth living…

When life ends…

When a dear friend of me told me that her dad had died, I didn’t hesitate to ask her if she would like me to stay with her for a few days…

This friend actually used to be a friend of my mother. Although they had lost contact, they found each other back at the end of my mom’s life and at that point, I started to get involved in her friends life as well.

At this point I can say that she’s a friend of mine as well… I would even say, it even feels like a dear aunt. She sometimes even refers to me as ‘the oldest daughter that come to visit once in a while’.  So this dear friend, or family member, lost her father. As she is almost like family to me, it is only naturally that I would like to be there for her and her eight year old daughter.

The dead of her dad, was something that was already coming for while now, because he was already an older man, living in a nursing home and losing control of his body and mind. It’s always sad to see something like that happen to a loved one. More even, it is hard to deal with. Over the years his mind and body gave up more an more of their functions. He was not the man any more, that she looked up to and once was her father.

My friend gladly took me up on my offer and said she would love it if I would stay with her and her daughter for a few days. So I did…

I came on the night of the farewell. After this moment of final goodbye, the next day at the funeral people good pay their final respect to the deceased. A single unwrapped rose could be given at his grave to show this respect.A single rose was given at the funeral

It was a wonderful day and a beautiful service about the deceased and the life he led, together with his wife, children and grandchildren. I  got an overview of the life that he had been living. My friend held a speech as well, filled with memories about a fully lived life. All these stories, speeches and memories gave me a good impression of the man he had been, since I didn’t get to know him until he already was a man of age, slowly losing grip of his own body and mind. Now I got to know the other and better part of his life as well. How he grew up in war, how his father died at a young age, how he found his goal in life and how he lived a happy life with his wife and children.

After the service and funeral, the condolences could be given at a restaurant. The man liked the joy of life, including a glass of wine. So this part of his life was honoured by his family. With finger-food and wine, memories were brought to life. This was a moment of remembering, not only the sad, but especially the many good stories of his life…

Remember people that have lived before us… Every life is precious and should be honoured.

My friend and I still had two days left after that… It was good to be there. I helped when I could, listened when she wanted to talk and held her when she needed a hug. We talked about the past the present and the future and were glad to have someone to share all of this with…

I left my friend,  knowing she would be alright. She lost her dad, so she would miss him. But in fact, the last years he was mostly suffering. Now his suffering was over, she didn’t have to feel the pain of that anymore. He was now out of pain and she had accepted this to be the best. I left. It was good to be there…

~Live your life like a story worth living…

First post

Although I’ve got a positive view on life, today I couldn’t find this positive feeling.

I just got back my thesis that I’ve been working on for a long time… I guess it just wasn’t good enough… I wouldn’t say it’s a masterpiece myself. Still, for all the work, sweat and tears I put in it, I really hoped for a better result than this…  What a sad day this is for me…. My heart just sank when I heard about the result. This would mean more work, more literature, more stuff I don’t like to think about anymore… It’s been long enough that I’ve been working on this theme. All I want is to finally start my life!

For me, finishing my Bachelor-degree in Communications is just a formality. In my mind I’m already finding a job and working. Because I’m ready for that now! Ready to start a real job, have responsibilities, find creative solutions and work towards a practical goal.

Life doesn’t mean you should just work, go to school and do only  things the world expects you to do. I learned to appreciate the small things in life. Even before my mother died, when I was 18, she taught  me to respect the world that we live in and everything that is part of it. She showed me how to love life, even though it can be tough, painful and unfair. This is what I’m trying to live up to, ever since.

Today however, I felt that life is tough, painful and very unfair! Will I ever finish this thesis? Will I get my Bachelor-degree in the end? Some of my friends make it look so easy… Compared to them I feel a bit dumb at the moment. Am I just not getting it, or am I just having bad luck and do I just need to give it a 100% one last time?

This day was a sad day for me, I will be sad until I go to bed.

Tomorrow I’m finding back my positive energy. I need that, to finish my thesis, to finally get my Bachelor-degree! On Monday I will get some more information on what I did wrong. Let’s hope I can work with this information, towards a Bachelor-degree worthy thesis…

For now, good night! Have a productive, inspiring and satisfying weekend.

~Live your life like a story worth living…

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Deadline for my thesisSeptember 6th, 2012
Will I make it in time; is it going to be good enough this time?